The Amor Dildo by Fun Factory was the first dildo I ever bought for myself. Not the first toy I ever bought or used, but the first one for myself. In roughly 10 years of owning and using sex toys they had always been associated with a sex partner, either because the partner bought them for me or we used them together or the toy was somehow reminiscent of the size and shape of their junk so I would always think of that particular person when using the toy. This practice was not a sustainable way to build a collection because I would either loose toys in breakups or purge them after all was said and done. [Note: unceremoniously dumping a vibrator that reminds you of an ex’s penis in the garbage can be a great way to move on.]
While working at the sex shop I spent a lot of time hanging out near the isle of dildos. We had displays of all of the models so that customers could touch them and get a sense for the textures and sizes. When I organized them they would stand in formation, all of the curves pointed in the same direction as though they were a field of dildos in a gentle breeze. I don’t know why the Amor called out to me. In general the people I dated with penises had members above average in size, and the people I dated with vulvas tended to be size queens in what they took and what they wore; maybe this is why the relatively simple and diminutively sized Amor chose me. I had no previous cock to compare it to, it wasn’t reminiscent of any sexual experience I had had before. it was simple and beautiful and mine.
The Amor is on the shorter side, 5.5” long (about 4.75” insertable) and about 1.37” in diameter (for me, it is equivalent to 3 of my fingers.) It is a firm, single density silicone, so not much give there. The tip is tapered with a simple head but with not much definition around where the coronal ridge might be, so there is not the bulb or popping effect that can happen with a more pronounced head. Because of this, I enjoy the Amor for butt play, especially for when I want more thrusting to be happening. Due to the firmness of this toy, I would say that this is a 201 anal toy, best after a little bit of finger-warm-up and/or a plug. I have been told by partners that it feels great on their prostates, which makes sense given the curve and firmness of the toy. The Base is a rounded triangular shape that is unique to Fun Factory, wide and thin, which fits very comfortably in a harness. And although the base is flat looking, the Fun Factory toys have some decent suction to them if you dampen the base before you stick it someplace.
One drawback of the velvet pebbled texture that is on the Amor (and many of the Fun Factory toys) is that it sucks lube like a motherfucker. The Amor is 100% silicone, so stick to oil (coconut) or water based. I have to use about 2x as much of my normal, thick, water based lube on this toy in comparison to what I would use on a metal or glass toy because of the texture, but I am ok with that, because the texture has a unique grip-y sensation that tugs on the nerve-rich membranes of wherever it has been inserted. This feeling, when paired with a good lube, creates a perfect friction that makes my muscles grab around the toy and melts me to jelly. It is about stimulating my openings, not about feeling full.
This cock is actually a 3-way-winner in my book. Not only is it great for the butt and vag, but it is also an excellent cock-sucking dick! I love love LOVE wearing the Amor in a harness and receiving a BJ. The shorter stature means that a lot more of the cock can fit in the giver’s mouth even if they do not have sword-swallowing capabilities, and the medium diameter means that even someone like me with a small jaw and TMJ can comfortably suck for a while without getting sore. The size around the cock feels similar to a regular ball gag in my mouth, so not something to do on a bad TMJ day, but totally reasonable on a normal day without much warm-up. Even with a blowjob though, I use lube, because the textured silicone will suck up all the saliva and cut the BJ short.
Since acquiring the Amor my collection has grown exponentially, and I love to be able to change out the dick in my harness at will, ready to accommodate for all occasions. But there is something about how I feel when I put the Amor in my harness; like it has always been there. I have described to my sex partners how I feel like I have a phantom dick: I don’t know if this is just a sexual fantasy or kink, or if it is related to my being non-binary in gender, or what. Bodies are weird; our psyches are complex. As I get older I’m less and less interested in trying to define why. I’m interested in how to be present, be that in my sex life or in creating art or paying attention to the new plants blooming as I walk along the bayou. Who knows why this perky, unassuming cock feels right? it just does, so I’m going with it. Maybe it’s for you, too!
